Non marriage


I have some good news and some bad news. The good

news is the divorce rate is going down. The bad news is that’s because

a lot of people don’t get married anymore. Now I’m not talking about


two lovebirds sharing a nest for a while or two old people sharing

their lives. I’m talking about young people living together and having

kids and not making any commitment to each other.

You would think

that if you want to take on the responsibility of raising a family,

with your significant other, you would kind of make it official. Now, I

know that there is no shame in living like this anymore. Shame went out

the window a long time ago.

But it seems to me if I was a woman

and was going to commit to having children for some guy, if for no

other reason then to make sure he was serious about the kids and me — I

would say how about we sign a contract?

Why don’t men want to do

this? Well, I can think of several reasons. First, he doesn’t want to

share his stuff with you. He just wants to share his lust with you.

Secondly, the government pays single mothers some support, and maybe if she can collect that, it will help out with the bills.

But probably the biggest reason is he doesn’t want to be on the hook for anything. He’s just not ready to settle down.


do we stop this? Well, some morals to start with might go a long way

but I think that ship has sailed. How about you’re not going to get

support from the county unless you tell who the father is. How about

the country takes that information and does something about it.

Mike Holst


Sarah Nelson
Sarah Nelson joined the Brainerd Dispatch in April 2010 and works as a online reporter, content editor and staff writer. She is a world traveler, accused idealist and California native now braving the winters of Central Minnesota. She believes in the power of human resolve and hopes to be part of something that makes history by bringing an end to injustice in the world. Sarah has worked as a criminal background researcher, high school civics teacher, grant writer, and contributing writer with — tackling every issue from global poverty to bio-degradable bicycles. Her favorite thing about living in Minnesota is July. Sarah left the Brainerd Dispatch in April 2014.
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