Crow Wing Energized calls smoking a habit to be kicked. Hanging up your coat is a habit. Brushing your teeth is a habit.
If you can't find a hook to hang your coat you don't have a panic attack. When the toothpaste is all gone you don't frantically run around the house to find a new tube or blame others for using all your toothpaste. Children don't run and hide when one of these habits are interrupted.
All of this happens when a smoker can't get his cigarette.
Addiction to tobacco is a long-term, committed and trusted relationship. Like when any committed relationship is severed, grief is normal when the smoker makes a decision to stop smoking.
Stop trying to quit, instead commit to quit. Then allow yourself to feel and go through all the suppressed feelings held below the surface for decades and freedom will come.
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It makes little sense to continue suppressing feelings and emotions with prescribed medications.
If you still doubt that smoke is a true addiction and your significant other is a smoker, put it to the test-tell the smoker "it's me or the cigarettes." Which do you think the smoker would choose?
If one is a believer in God and sincerely asks God to remove the obsession to smoke, he will. However, those suppressed feelings will come out and then, to borrow the phrase from Martin Luther King Jr., "Free at last, free at last, thank God almighty, (I'm) free at last."
Ron Brusven
Brainerd
